Episodes
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
382 | Michael Barta | Deprivation Trauma & Intimacy Disorder
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman discuss the awesomeness of Rob Chenoweth, retreats and new podcasts.
Our Guest: Dr. Michael Barta: author, psychologist, therapist, CSAT, and 12-stepper. Michael discusses how to treat “what’s causing the rash” -- going deeper beyond the symptoms. Digging into the intimacy disorder, learning to co-regulate in community. The lack of stability, emotional security and mental safety that leads to the inability to regulate. An environment where mistakes are ok and not punished creates authenticity. Michael also discusses how the external trauma becomes about us.
Links:
Dr. Michael Barta
Books:
TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
Guest Host:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity, We Got Balls, The Mirror
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
381 | Michelle Mays | Recovery is a Rodeo
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman update everyone on Aaron and Erin
Our Guest: Michelle Mays: author, counselor and innovator. Michelle guides couples through healing and recovery from betrayal. Helping couples understand betrayal through attachment. She reminds us of the four attachment styles and how they affect both partners before and during recovery. Michelle also defines the three core injuries that happen to the betrayed partner.
Contact and Book:
Michelle Mays
Guest Host:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity, We Got Balls, The Mirror
Upcoming events:
Pure Desire Conference
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
380 | Nate Geyer | When Being a Good Boy Doesn’t Work
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
On this episode: Aaron and guest-host/guest Nate Geyer discuss everything from Birkenstocks to stocks.
Our Guest: Nate Geyer works for Begin Again Institute as an LPC and CSATC. He comes from a background of education as well as lots of personal experience. Nate shares his journey of therapy and story work to find healing and recovery. He discusses how he started at four years old and felt like just scenery in his own house. Sharing feelings of guilt while having done nothing wrong. Also sharing his successes as he finds healing in connection and intimacy.
Links:
Begin Again Institute
Boulder Recovery Institute
Nate’s Email
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
379 | Kervins Clement | The Importance of YOUR Story in Recovery and Growth
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
On this episode: Aaron and guest host Rob discuss Soul Architecture and how it works. Nate is still on a cruise.
Our Guest: Kervins Clement: therapist CSAT, PHD candidate, husband, former sex addict. Kervins shares how growing up as a black Haitian immigrant impacted his addiction and recovery. Embracing ADHD and dyslexia, athletics, Young Life, community, crime, and sharing secrets. Identifying your struggle to learn to fight like hell. The importance of understanding your family and sharing your story with your kids. Kervins stresses the importance of community and letting others into your story as part of healing and growth.
Links:
Lewisville Family Counseling
kervinsclement@yahoo.com
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
378 | Jonathan Merritt | How to Let Your Heart Grow
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
On this episode: Aaron and guest host Rob discuss breaking down walls and curiosity about others’ stories. Nate is on a cruise.
Our Guest: Jonathan Merritt is an author, journalist, coach, and speaker. Learning to understand how news and opinion differ and how they change the reader. Embracing and investigating fear. Not allowing fear to tear us apart, especially when considering fear and faith. Are you covering fear with joy? Learning to investigate the stories of fear in your life as you grow. Jonathan guides us through engaging in healthy discussion and debate. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
Links:
Jonathan Merritt
Books:
Learning to Speak God From Scratch
Learning to Walk in the Dark
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
377 | Mary Archibeque | Intimacy vs Intensity
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
On this episode: Aaron with an A and Erin with an E host while Nate is in Alaska.
Our Guest: Mary Archibeque - addiction therapist and CSAT. Recovered drug addict turned drug addiction therapist, then gambling addiction therapist, and finally sex addiction therapist. Connecting to others through vulnerability and authenticity; no one cares what you know if they don’t know you care. You can’t care or work harder than the person you are helping. Intensity is a version of false intimacy or trauma bonding. Intimacy should be peaceful. Ask questions to determine if you replaced an addiction with a “healthier” addiction or if you are living healthy. Doing what’s healthy vs. what’s familiar.
Links:
Mary at Psychology Today
Mary at the Center for Relationship and Healthy Sexuality
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Jul 19, 2023
376 | Stephen McWhirter | Every Story Has a Purpose
Wednesday Jul 19, 2023
Wednesday Jul 19, 2023
On this episode: Nate fixes wiring. Aaron is stranded at home. They discuss emotions in the church and the shortcomings of online friends.
Our Guest: Stephen McWhirter - musician, minister, husband, and father. Stephen shares his story of being a preacher's kid and recovered drug addict. Your story [of healing] matters. Jesus didn’t heal people the same way twice. Jesus is real, despite your experiences. Stories of redemption. Everyone has emotions. Everything is trying to emotionally manipulate you. What are you going to tune into?
Links:
Stephen McWhirter
Books:
The Case for Christ
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Jul 12, 2023
375 | Zachary Wagner | New Testament Masculinity
Wednesday Jul 12, 2023
Wednesday Jul 12, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron don’t have time for buffoonery.
Our Guest: Zachary Wagner, an American in England, writer, researcher, and ordained minister. We look at how was Jesus’ masculinity shaped the narratives of the church. Understanding myths about the need for sex. Replacing the purity paradigm with learning. Turning immature image of sex into mature understanding. Discussing sexual abuse crisis in culture and the church. Reflecting on how Jesus had intimate, nonsexual, relationships with both males and females.
Links:
Book: Non-Toxic Masculinity, Contact: Zachary Wagner
Sponsor:
Lifeworks Counseling and Coaching
Events:
48 Hours of Frankness - Colorado
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Jul 05, 2023
374 | Cathy Loerzel | Transitions in Life
Wednesday Jul 05, 2023
Wednesday Jul 05, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron are back from England. Aaron has realizations and understands his feet. And a mysterious guest host is on the show.
Our Guest: Cathy Loerzel:, author, coach, speaker, wife, and mother. Cathy, Co-founder of the Allender Center, talks about her next steps in life. Discussing loyalty and false loyalty: staying due to fear of being alone. Francis Weller’s premise of grief: “everything you love will die”. Growing when there wasn’t a plan B, while honoring and grieving your past. God calls us to spiritual and emotional maturity. Finding community with other survivors.
Links:
Contact, Coaching, Speaking, etc.
Books:
The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred work of Grief
Sponsor:
Lifeworks Counseling and Coaching
Events:
48 Hours of Frankness - Colorado
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Jun 28, 2023
373 | Craig Cashwell | Spiritual Bypass
Wednesday Jun 28, 2023
Wednesday Jun 28, 2023
On this episode: Aaron has end of high school anxiety. Nate is old enough to have a grandchild graduating college.
Our Guest: Dr. Craig Cashwell is a professor at William and Mary College and trauma counselor. Competent and ethical integration of spirituality into the counseling process. Understanding spiritual bypass. What you resist, persists. Discussing “need shame” and toxic positivity. Underneath anger is fear. Undoing gender stereotypes. You can’t be real with a partner if you aren’t real with self. “We are all on the hot mess express!” Once you are real, you can’t be ugly except to those people that don’t understand. The courage to be vulnerable.
Links:
Bio and contact
The Harbor
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.