Pirate Monk Podcast

189 • Encouraging the Spouse of an Addict

Catherine Etherington is an empathetic and articulate mother-of-two from England who has helped hundreds of women come to terms with the news that they have been sleeping with a sex addict. Here's a taste of her wisdom:

Nate: Some Christian women are told that their responsibility towards a repentant spouse (or even an unrepentant one) is to forgive and forget. Is that true? Is it even possible? Are there healthier alternatives that produce healing?

 

Cat: That is such an important issue and one that we in the church don’t really talk about enough. This whole forgiveness thing puts women under a lot of pressure in the midst of their trauma and confusion and in my opinion it creates a lot of unnecessary guilt on their part.

 

Music Used on this Episode:

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Resources Recommended on this Episode:

Find out more about being coached by Cat here.

A great organization to contact: APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists

Your Sexually-Addicted Spouse by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means

Beyond Betrayal: How God is Healing Women (and Couples) from Infidelity by Lisa Taylor

Cat's blog on Huffington Post.

The Naked Truth Project (UK only)

Note: We apologize for the long delay in the posting of this episode.

184 • Treating Depression and Addiction with Dr. Paul Corona

Aaron follows up on his promise from the last episode and invites Dr. Paul Corona to discuss treating depression and addiction with medicine.

Have you been struggling for years with addiction, depression symptoms, physical pain, anxiety, or other related issues? For many, there has been no treatment, pill, or treatment plan able to solve the problem. Dr. Corona’s approach is different. He understands there’s only one solution per person, and that solution depends on a number of factors—your genetic makeup, your hormonal status, your body’s chemistry, your upbringing, and even your current lifestyle and stresses.

Read more about Dr. Corona or schedule an appointment by visiting his website. Purchase his books here or on Amazon. Music Used on this Episode "Welcome to the Road" from the soundtrack to The Fabulous Baker Boys by Dave Grusin Subscribe to the Pirate Monk podcast

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180 • The Afterglow of After the Miracle

The guys gather to discuss the outcome of "After the Miracle", the first National Samson Society retreat.

Then we answer a question from a brother pirate who is concerned about how to keep your group safe for all members and how to squelch rumors.

Music Used on this Episode:

"Mountain Cathedrals" by Bob Bennett

"Honesty" by Billy Joel

175 • Questions About Porn

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REGISTRATION NOW OPEN: "After the Miracle: Building a Life of Positive Sobriety", the Samson Society National Retreat, is scheduled for August 19–21, 2016. Click here for more details and to register.

We open our conversation with a mini-meeting about "Disappointment." We'd love to hear your observations. Use the tools at the bottom of this post to leave us your thoughts and feelings about "Disappointment."

Our first question:

Is there a common source for pain for men that drives us to pornography? How do we find healing from the source?

Our second question:

Maybe this is so unique to each individual, but what is real sobriety like? Can it be defined qualitatively or quantitatively? What are the intangible aspects that you have wlaked through?

The Music on This Edition of the Podcast:

"Short Attention Span"

"American Tune" by Paul Simon

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Episode 169 • Questions from Listeners

In Episode 0169, Nate, Aaron, and Mark attend a mini-meeting then answer some questions from our listener survey. (1) Is there such a thing as casual porn use, like casual drinking? (2) How do I handle going to the beach? Watching TV?

Mini-Meeting

If you're looking for resources to start a Samson Society meeting in your area, check out these resources. Feel free to comment or leave a voicemail with any questions you have.

Chess

Aaron told a great story about his son, Elijah. Check out this picture.

Super Samson

Nate and Aaron mentioned a funny video of things that can go right... and oh so wrong... at a Samson Society meeting. When this video resurfaces, we'll post it here.

Changing Lanes

Nate mentioned this movie in his checkin during our mini-meeting. Stream or download here. [iTunes] [Amazon]

Watch the clip mentioned here.

Music Used

"In the Light of the Common Day" by Phil Keaggy

 

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Ep164 • Best of 2015

Listen back to clips from the top three listened to podcast episodes of 2015.

The number three most popular episode of 2015 was #161, "Cross Road" featuring Ken Snyder.


Click here to listen to the entire episode #161 "Cross Road."

Find out more or order Ken Snyder's book, Cross Road.

In this clip, Ken addresses the spiritual benefits of recovery and how he brings the Gospel into the process. Nate, Aaron, and Newton talk about community and the standards in their recovery program.

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The number two most popular episode of 2015 was #153, "The River of Denial" featuring Nate Larkin.



Click here to listen to the entire episode #153 "The River of Denial"

Subscribe to the Walking Lessons podcast by Nate Larkin.

In this clip, Nate addresses ten strategies we employ to deny our problems and addictions.

Ten Strategies for Denial

1. Minimizing
2. Comparison
   
3. Create a Diversion
   
4. Distraction
   
5. Blaming
   
6. Working
7. Pick Another Area in which to Succeed
   
8. Fantasy
9. False Repentance
10. Absolute Denial

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The most popular episode of 2015 was #159 "Where Do I Go from Here" featuring Greg Oliver and Adam Calvert of Route 1520.



Click here to listen to the entire episode #159, "Where Do I Go from Here?"

In this clip, Greg and Adam discuss the first steps of safety for a man struggling with sex addiction in one of its many forms.

Take the self-inventory discussed in this clip.

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