Pirate Monk Podcast

EPISODE 300 CELEBRATION!!! Listener Questions for Nate & Aaron w/Tom Ryan

To celebrate 300 episodes, we get to know Nate and Aaron a little bit better.  The host for this special episode is our good friend, Tom Ryan (known to some of you as T. C. Ryan) author of Ashamed No More: A Pastor's Journey Through Sex Addiction. 

 

Tom has just released two free recovery resource packages on his website: livingintegrated.org. Both packages have pdf content and homework with a companion video.

 

The first package, "Four Tasks for Getting Your Life Back", is for folks who are beginning to realize they may have a problem with sex or porn and don't know what to do. Six pdfs and companion videos.

 

The second package, "Fifteen Practices For Living The Life You Want", is for those who need to do something more to really get going in recovery. It's also a good re-starter if we've plateaued in recovery. Seventeen pdfs and companion videos.

 

Additionally, Tom is working with the leadership of "Boulder Recovery" which we covered in-depth in episode 299.  More information can be found at boulderrecovery.com.  

 

Just for Travis, here are the links to Aaron's books and music:

https://www.pastemagazine.com/noisetrade/books/porter

https://soundcloud.com/aaron-porter-778791650

 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

 

Episode 299 * Trauma and Christ in Sexual Addiction Recovery w/ Matt Wenger

"I don't think that God's goal in the universe is to lessen the amount of sin.  I think His primary goal is to increase the amount of connection between Him and His people."

Today's guest is therapist Matt Wenger, who works with guys dealing with porn and sex addiction.  In the course of that work, he recognized that Christian men have unique challenges in their journey to healing from this addiction.  The result of that was the development of Boulder Recovery, which offers a new 14-Day Men's Intensive for Christian guys struggling with porn and sex addiction.  Dr. Michael Barta's Trauma-Induced Sex Addiction (TINSA) Model of therapy is integrated with healthy spiritual teaching and practices to promote genuine healing from the attachment wounds and intimacy disorders that drive sexual addiction. The first intensive will be June 19-July 3, 2021. Information can be found at boulderrecovery.com.

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Episode 298 * Loving Someone with Mental Health Issues w/ Steve Zehr

Nate gives Aaron a PSA about severe weather before they are joined by Nate's long-time friend, Steve Zehr, who shares how he was shaped by his 35-year marriage to Susan, who struggled with mental illness. Steve's book is titled In Sickness and in Health and he can be reached at sd.zehr@gmail.com. 

 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

 

 

 

Episode 297 * Rewiring the Brain w/ Dan Larkin

Nate has an inspiring conversation with his brother, Dan.  After a series of strokes, Dan was left unable to speak and was told by doctors that he would never speak again.  But Dan didn't accept that prognosis.  Through hard work and sheer determination, he discovered his own path for healing, proving the incredible resilience of the human brain.  The parallels with the recovery journey are evident. 

 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Episode 296 * Healthy Intimacy and Betrayal w/ Bonny Burns

First, a discussion of Nate's blog about Ravi Zacharias (https://natelarkin.net/ravi-and-me/) and some feedback he has received.  Then, an interview with Bonny Burns - podcaster, coach and member of the leadership team for the Sarah Society - the sister organization which has grown out of a group of women impacted by the choices of Samson Society guys.  Topics include healthy sexual intimacy, Bonny's experience as a betrayed spouse going through D-Day, the continuing quest toward community and intimacy, building trust and empathy.

"Sex is neither the cause of this addiction or the cure."

"Sexual intimacy is for me too and I have just as much voice in the bedroom as he does."

"Boundaries are to keep me safe, not to punish him."

To connect with Bonny:

bonny@strongwives.com
www.strongwives.com (coaching support/resources)
www.forchristianwives.com (Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast)
www.oysterbed7.com (blog)

 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Episode 295 * A Journey Through Pain w/ Seth Haines

How do we deal with the inevitable pain that comes into our life?  Nate gives an update on recent struggles with Allie's health before having a discussion with Seth Haines, who shares his own season of severe anxiety related to the health of his infant son, the even deeper pain of a seemingly absent God, and his subsequent slide into alcoholism in an attempt to numb the pain. 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Episode 294 * Recovering All of What God Wants for Me w/ Morgan Snyder

The guys respond to a couple of notes from the mailbag before having a great discussion with Morgan Snyder (becomegoodsoil.com) about discovering the heart of Father as we discover our true sonship. Can we answer the questions - Where do I feel uncomfortable in the realm of masculinity? How do I recover ALL of what God wants for me? 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Episode 293 * The God of Our Understanding w/ Brad Jersak

This is a refreshing discussion with theologian, author and professor  Brad Jersak that spans a myriad of subjects - from interactions with people of diverse viewpoints, love addiction vs. sex addiction, the purpose of confession and repentance, and what "the God of our understanding" and "progress not perfection" really mean. www.bradjersak.com

 

Featured song: "If Old is Grey" by Chad Land; used by permission (https://soundcloud.com/chad-land) 

Other music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Episode 292 * The Brain Science of Self-Discipline w/ Drew Dyck

Have you ever made a promise to yourself to create a new habit but gave it up after only a few weeks?  How are those new year's resolutions holding up after a month?  Drew Dyck noticed this pattern in his own life and decided to do some study into both the scientific and biblical principles related to self-control.  Nate and Aaron have a great discussion with Drew about partnering with God and your community even in the small areas of our life.  You can find even more details in his book, Your Future Self Will Thank You.  (drewdyck.com)

Also, Nate opens the mailbag and shares a few recent notes.

 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.

Episode 291 * Surviving Domestic Abuse w/ "Becky"

In part two of our series on domestic abuse, we talk with "Becky", an abuse survivor.  Her story is one of pain, fear and redemption, but does point out how the Christian community can sometimes fall into the trap of excusing abusive behavior in the name of avoiding divorce.    Can every marriage be saved?  Should every marriage be saved?  Abuse should never be tolerated in the name of statistics.  The guys tackle this tough subject in light of the gospel in compassion, grace and love.

 

The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.

For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.