Episodes

Wednesday Nov 08, 2023
392 | Jenna Riemersma | IFS: Compassion, Not Control
Wednesday Nov 08, 2023
Wednesday Nov 08, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss how to deal with relapse including gentleness and curiosity.
Our Guest: Jenna Riemersma is an IFS therapist and author of Altogether You. She explains how Internal Family System therapy practices work to help their clients. Jenna leads us though a very powerful exercise to examine, understand, and grow related to our escaping behavior. Understanding authentic-self-led power versus manager-led power.
Links:
Jenna Riemersma's Website
Altogether You Book
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Nov 01, 2023
391 | Carver Brown | Making Amends
Wednesday Nov 01, 2023
Wednesday Nov 01, 2023
On this episode: Nate, Aaron and guest host Elijah Lloyd Jones cure all that ails you, explaining how to cast your burdens on Christ. Also, be careful “shoulding” on yourself.
Our Guest: Carver Brown is a recovery coach, recovery coach trainer, structured family recovery counselor, love first interventionists, and Life Works coach. He comes to us with over 20 years of sober experience. Carver reminds us that recovery is messy, we will mess up, but we are getting better. He walks us through the four types of amends and how to do them, as well as some mistakes and limitations. Carver also shares about leading groups of people through the 12-steps in a day.
Links:
AA Back to Basics
Carver Brown Email
Carver Brown at Life Works
Carver Brown Journey Through The 12 Steps
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Oct 25, 2023
390 | Bruce Hebel | Forgiveness: Applying the What of Jesus
Wednesday Oct 25, 2023
Wednesday Oct 25, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron skip the intro and get right to the interview.
Our Guest: Dr. Bruce Hebel is an author, pastor, pastor's kid, and speaker. He brings the freedom of the gospel through forgiveness, revolutionary transformative change. Bruce discusses why it's important to forgive, citing that it can help relieve depression, anxiety, paranoia, and addiction. The choice we have to forgive or hold grudges. Bruce discusses the 7-step process of forgiveness and healing. He shares stories of change and hope. Reminding us that forgiveness is not reconciliation or trust but can lead to both.
Links:
Bruce Hebel
Book:
Forgive Forward
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Oct 18, 2023
389 | Andy Gullahorn | It’s About the Journey, Not the Destination
Wednesday Oct 18, 2023
Wednesday Oct 18, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss delight in walking alongside others and seeing their growth and first-time experiences.
Our Guest: Andy Gullahorn, singer/songwriter, musician, and musical guest at the 2023 Samson Summit in Van TX. Andy is also nearly an O.G. Samson brother! Discussing the benefits of sobriety, including creativity, being in your own body physically and emotionally, vulnerability, and the value of the recovery experience. Andy guides us to honor the experiences of what actually happened. Also discussed are sarcasm and the song writing process.
Links:
Andy Gullahorn
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
388 | Rebekah Vickery | I Feel...But the Bible…
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron answer questions about patience in recovery, and speculate about Paul maybe wanting to wack off.
Our Guest: Rebekah Vickery: Therapist, Allender Center trained, and Trauma Specialist. Rebekah shares her work concerning church and sexual trauma. Discussing the fault of spiritual bypass: ignoring the situation, feelings, what’s wrong, and focusing on religion. Sharing the importance of connecting to others to repair shame. Repairing “purity culture”: learning to (re)connect to your body, hunger, and feelings. The importance of Trader Joe's tissues.
Links:
Heart Root
Rebekah’s email
Sponsor:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Oct 04, 2023
387 | Phil Dvorak | Connecting the Gospel to the Addict
Wednesday Oct 04, 2023
Wednesday Oct 04, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron discussing grieving and wailing, one step at time.
Q from A: Why is it important to have separate men's and women’s sex addiction recovery groups?
Our Guest: Phil Dvorak: pastor, therapist, clinical director and church planter. Considering “Night of Joy” vs. “MTV Spring Break.” Phil discusses his journey to and from alcoholism. The importance of community, coming clean, and mentorship. The story of how recovery and Christ were integrated to start Recovery Church about 12 years ago.
Links:
Recovery Church Movement
Phil Dvorak
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
386 | Adam Young | What If There’s Nothing Wrong with You?
Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron are in the ionosphere speculating.
Q from A: How much detail is appropriate to disclose to your spouse?
Our Guest: Adam Young: author, therapist, speaker and podcaster. Adam talks about writing his upcoming book: Your Life Makes Sense. When we are not connected emotionally, interpersonally, and emotionally, we isolate, our brain fragments, and we tend to do whatever it takes to get peace in our bodies, frequently in addiction. Discussing attunement, and parents who don’t respond to their child’s emotions, orphaning them. Healing (recovery) includes grieving and feeling unfelt feelings, in the safety of another person. The human heart cannot heal with a cup of coffee, Bible, Journal, and a good view out the window.
Links:
Adam Young
Sponsor:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity
Annual Retreat (featuring Adam Young):
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
385 | Jason Mathew | A New Type of Accountability App
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
On this episode: Aaron is back with updates. Aaron introduces his new jingle.
Questions from Albuquerque: I'm lying in bed and can't sleep and I know that acting out will "fix" the problem. What do I do?
Our Guest: Jason Mathew: founder of Lead Me Not accountability software. Jason shares his story of porn, fantasy, and dating apps and his need for digital-wellness. The app tracks trends, sends alerts, syncs with calendars, promotes reflection, and introspection. It focuses on high levels of security for the user and partners while helping to maintain boundaries on Androids and ChromeBooks.
Links:
jason@leadmenot.org
Lead Me Not
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
384 | Laura Connell | You Are On Your Side
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman talk about kids leaving the house and becoming P.O.R.K.
Our Guest: Laura Connell: author and trauma informed coach. Laura discusses how adverse childhood experiences (A.C.E. test) affect life expectancy and how to get those years back. She talks about how self-sabotage relates to childhood trauma. How willpower is not enough to stop self-sabotage from trauma. Other topics include reparenting and self-parenting, not being the victim while acknowledging the players in your story, and how to discover your identity while in healing and recovery.
Links: Laura Connell
Books: Its Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop
Guest Host:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity, We Got Balls, The Mirror
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
383 | Mari Lee | There Is No Addiction Without Trauma
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Tom Moucka discuss the difference between a therapist, coach, and Silas.
Our Guest: Mari Lee: author, speaker, therapist, CSAT, trained in Gottman, betrayal trauma, complex trauma, sexual addiction and recovery, EMDR, and mindfulness based therapy. Mari discusses how her pain became her passion. We don’t have to live in the past, but the past lives in us. She explains the importance of disclosure in creating trust when working with couples and individuals. For some, the clinical relationship may be the first relationship where there is healthy attachment in an individual's life. Discussing that divorce is OK. Other topics include: shame, polyamory, LGBTQI, and throwing onion dip.
Links:
Growth Counseling Services
The Counselors Coach
Books:
Facing Heartbreak Workbook
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.