Episodes
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
388 | Rebekah Vickery | I Feel...But the Bible…
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
Wednesday Oct 11, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron answer questions about patience in recovery, and speculate about Paul maybe wanting to wack off.
Our Guest: Rebekah Vickery: Therapist, Allender Center trained, and Trauma Specialist. Rebekah shares her work concerning church and sexual trauma. Discussing the fault of spiritual bypass: ignoring the situation, feelings, what’s wrong, and focusing on religion. Sharing the importance of connecting to others to repair shame. Repairing “purity culture”: learning to (re)connect to your body, hunger, and feelings. The importance of Trader Joe's tissues.
Links:
Heart Root
Rebekah’s email
Sponsor:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Oct 04, 2023
387 | Phil Dvorak | Connecting the Gospel to the Addict
Wednesday Oct 04, 2023
Wednesday Oct 04, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron discussing grieving and wailing, one step at time.
Q from A: Why is it important to have separate men's and women’s sex addiction recovery groups?
Our Guest: Phil Dvorak: pastor, therapist, clinical director and church planter. Considering “Night of Joy” vs. “MTV Spring Break.” Phil discusses his journey to and from alcoholism. The importance of community, coming clean, and mentorship. The story of how recovery and Christ were integrated to start Recovery Church about 12 years ago.
Links:
Recovery Church Movement
Phil Dvorak
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
386 | Adam Young | What If There’s Nothing Wrong with You?
Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
Wednesday Sep 27, 2023
On this episode: Nate and Aaron are in the ionosphere speculating.
Q from A: How much detail is appropriate to disclose to your spouse?
Our Guest: Adam Young: author, therapist, speaker and podcaster. Adam talks about writing his upcoming book: Your Life Makes Sense. When we are not connected emotionally, interpersonally, and emotionally, we isolate, our brain fragments, and we tend to do whatever it takes to get peace in our bodies, frequently in addiction. Discussing attunement, and parents who don’t respond to their child’s emotions, orphaning them. Healing (recovery) includes grieving and feeling unfelt feelings, in the safety of another person. The human heart cannot heal with a cup of coffee, Bible, Journal, and a good view out the window.
Links:
Adam Young
Sponsor:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity
Annual Retreat (featuring Adam Young):
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
385 | Jason Mathew | A New Type of Accountability App
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
Wednesday Sep 20, 2023
On this episode: Aaron is back with updates. Aaron introduces his new jingle.
Questions from Albuquerque: I'm lying in bed and can't sleep and I know that acting out will "fix" the problem. What do I do?
Our Guest: Jason Mathew: founder of Lead Me Not accountability software. Jason shares his story of porn, fantasy, and dating apps and his need for digital-wellness. The app tracks trends, sends alerts, syncs with calendars, promotes reflection, and introspection. It focuses on high levels of security for the user and partners while helping to maintain boundaries on Androids and ChromeBooks.
Links:
jason@leadmenot.org
Lead Me Not
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
384 | Laura Connell | You Are On Your Side
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
Wednesday Sep 13, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman talk about kids leaving the house and becoming P.O.R.K.
Our Guest: Laura Connell: author and trauma informed coach. Laura discusses how adverse childhood experiences (A.C.E. test) affect life expectancy and how to get those years back. She talks about how self-sabotage relates to childhood trauma. How willpower is not enough to stop self-sabotage from trauma. Other topics include reparenting and self-parenting, not being the victim while acknowledging the players in your story, and how to discover your identity while in healing and recovery.
Links: Laura Connell
Books: Its Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop
Guest Host:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity, We Got Balls, The Mirror
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
383 | Mari Lee | There Is No Addiction Without Trauma
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
Wednesday Sep 06, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Tom Moucka discuss the difference between a therapist, coach, and Silas.
Our Guest: Mari Lee: author, speaker, therapist, CSAT, trained in Gottman, betrayal trauma, complex trauma, sexual addiction and recovery, EMDR, and mindfulness based therapy. Mari discusses how her pain became her passion. We don’t have to live in the past, but the past lives in us. She explains the importance of disclosure in creating trust when working with couples and individuals. For some, the clinical relationship may be the first relationship where there is healthy attachment in an individual's life. Discussing that divorce is OK. Other topics include: shame, polyamory, LGBTQI, and throwing onion dip.
Links:
Growth Counseling Services
The Counselors Coach
Books:
Facing Heartbreak Workbook
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
382 | Michael Barta | Deprivation Trauma & Intimacy Disorder
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
Wednesday Aug 30, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman discuss the awesomeness of Rob Chenoweth, retreats and new podcasts.
Our Guest: Dr. Michael Barta: author, psychologist, therapist, CSAT, and 12-stepper. Michael discusses how to treat “what’s causing the rash” -- going deeper beyond the symptoms. Digging into the intimacy disorder, learning to co-regulate in community. The lack of stability, emotional security and mental safety that leads to the inability to regulate. An environment where mistakes are ok and not punished creates authenticity. Michael also discusses how the external trauma becomes about us.
Links:
Dr. Michael Barta
Books:
TINSA: A Neurological Approach to the Treatment of Sex Addiction
Guest Host:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity, We Got Balls, The Mirror
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
381 | Michelle Mays | Recovery is a Rodeo
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
On this episode: Nate and guest host Chris Inman update everyone on Aaron and Erin
Our Guest: Michelle Mays: author, counselor and innovator. Michelle guides couples through healing and recovery from betrayal. Helping couples understand betrayal through attachment. She reminds us of the four attachment styles and how they affect both partners before and during recovery. Michelle also defines the three core injuries that happen to the betrayed partner.
Contact and Book:
Michelle Mays
Guest Host:
Chris Inman - Porn Free Masculinity, We Got Balls, The Mirror
Upcoming events:
Pure Desire Conference
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
380 | Nate Geyer | When Being a Good Boy Doesn’t Work
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
On this episode: Aaron and guest-host/guest Nate Geyer discuss everything from Birkenstocks to stocks.
Our Guest: Nate Geyer works for Begin Again Institute as an LPC and CSATC. He comes from a background of education as well as lots of personal experience. Nate shares his journey of therapy and story work to find healing and recovery. He discusses how he started at four years old and felt like just scenery in his own house. Sharing feelings of guilt while having done nothing wrong. Also sharing his successes as he finds healing in connection and intimacy.
Links:
Begin Again Institute
Boulder Recovery Institute
Nate’s Email
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
379 | Kervins Clement | The Importance of YOUR Story in Recovery and Growth
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
On this episode: Aaron and guest host Rob discuss Soul Architecture and how it works. Nate is still on a cruise.
Our Guest: Kervins Clement: therapist CSAT, PHD candidate, husband, former sex addict. Kervins shares how growing up as a black Haitian immigrant impacted his addiction and recovery. Embracing ADHD and dyslexia, athletics, Young Life, community, crime, and sharing secrets. Identifying your struggle to learn to fight like hell. The importance of understanding your family and sharing your story with your kids. Kervins stresses the importance of community and letting others into your story as part of healing and growth.
Links:
Lewisville Family Counseling
kervinsclement@yahoo.com
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
Annual Retreat:
2023 Samson Annual Retreat
If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and www.fiftysounds.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
Support for the women who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To help support the vision, please consider a contribution to Samson House.