Pirate Monk Podcast

182 • Five Things Addicts Should and Shouldn't Say to Partners

Nate, Aaron, and Mark check in briefly.

The guys discussed this article on this edition outlining the Five Things Addicts Should (and Should Not) Say to Partners.

  Do say, "I understand why you don't trust me."

  Do say, "What can I do to repair what I've done?"

  Do Lead with Agreement

  Don't say, "I've told you everything."

  Don't ask (or expect) your partner to congratulate you on your sobriety or recovery activities

Books Mentioned on this Edition:

Moving Beyond Betrayal by Vicki Tidwell Palmer

The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (Download PDF at no cost here)

 

Bible Passages on this Edition:

1 John 1:9 (Confession (homolgio - say the same thing as)

1 Peter 5

 

Music on This Edition:

"I'm Not Who I Was"

181 • Legislating Morality

Australia is taking a governmental approach to protecting their citizens from pornography. But does legislating morality actually work? How about on a personal level? On this edition of the podcast, Aaron, Newton, and Mark talk about their opinions and observations.

We kick off this edition with a look at pastors' resignations like these.

 

Music on this Episode

Aaron shares one of his original songs, "A Pastor's Thoughts on Pedestals". Enjoy exclusively on this podcast.

 

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180 • The Afterglow of After the Miracle

The guys gather to discuss the outcome of "After the Miracle", the first National Samson Society retreat.

Then we answer a question from a brother pirate who is concerned about how to keep your group safe for all members and how to squelch rumors.

Music Used on this Episode:

"Mountain Cathedrals" by Bob Bennett

"Honesty" by Billy Joel

179 • The Love of Christ and the Hope for Your Marriage

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This edition of the podcast was recorded on May 18, 2016 and first published on July 13, 2016

To keep you informed, you must know what a bunganut is before you have a great burger and play a game of pool at The Bunganut Pig.

And, oh by the way, Mark got married!

Today we answer a Pirate Monk's question:

"Guys, I'd love some help understanding how to live and love a wife with mental illness."

Don't tune out if that's not your story because whether you wife has mental illness, physical illness, or is just affected by the fall, the conversation will encourage you and prompt you to think about God's role and your role in marriage.

The guys discuss the nature of the love of God, the love of a man for his wife, and the nature of hope.

Music on this Episode:

"Tell Your Heart to Beat Again" by Danny Gokey (if you haven't heard the story behind the song, make sure to watch this video.)

"Holding Out Hope to You" by Michael English.

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178 • Handing a Scalpel to a Fellow Pirate

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We launch this podcast with an emotions check-in with Nate, Newton, and Mark.

The heart of the episode circles around a recent experience Mark encountered. At a recent meeting, two men discussed their dissatisfaction with their Samson Society journey. Upon further discussion, everyone in the circle agreed that sometimes every Pirate Monk can get stuck early on The Path. We go to (some) meetings, we choose a Silas that we call (rarely), but steps three through seven elude us. How does a willing man face his journey and make progress.

Nate talks about a book he's reading:

Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday.

We discussed a tried and true way to undergo a fearless (or courageous) moral inventory:

Take a look at the four horsemen:

  Resentment

  Fear

  Anger (or Shame)

  Lust

Music on this Episode:

"Shoulder to Shoulder" by The Allies

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177 • Who are the Samson Society? Is Everyone a Sex Addict?

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You've been there when a new man walked in the door for a first-time meeting. We get to know Lee Marcus who hesitated a little before sitting in our circle… and then God got to work. If you've ever been asked, "Who goes to Samson Society", this episode will help you answer with grace and the Gospel.

Lee Marcus is an eight-year veteran of Samson Society and came because of co-dependency, rage, and marital problems. Lee spent a long and decorated career in radio and now meets new people every day as a guide to owning new Acura vehicles. (If you're interested, you can email Lee here for more information.)

We launch the podcast with a mini-meeting about "regret." We'd love you to join in. Scroll to the bottom of this post and leave a comment with your thoughts on regret. If you want a more personal connection, email us here or leave us a voicemail. The link is below..

We then talk about why men come to—and stay plugged in to—Samson Society.

If you're unfamiliar with our meeting format, click here to read our charter.

Music on this Episode

"Straight Ahead" by Amy Grant

"He Ain't Heavy, He's My Brother" by Glen Campbell

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176 • You Are There featuring Robert Campbell

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Nate, Aaron, and Mark welcome a pastor, Robert Campbell, to the microphones for a conversation about building community, creation care, and shepherding Christians towards discipleship that is all the way down to the dirt.

  What is the fruit of a redemptive life?

  How do Jesus's life, death, and resurrection make a substantial difference in your own backyard?

  How is community built differently in a large city than a small town?

Find out more or purchase a copy of Robert's book here.

Music on this Edition of the Podcast:

"King of the Road" by Roger Miller

"Space in Between Us" by Building 429

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175 • Questions About Porn

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We open our conversation with a mini-meeting about "Disappointment." We'd love to hear your observations. Use the tools at the bottom of this post to leave us your thoughts and feelings about "Disappointment."

Our first question:

Is there a common source for pain for men that drives us to pornography? How do we find healing from the source?

Our second question:

Maybe this is so unique to each individual, but what is real sobriety like? Can it be defined qualitatively or quantitatively? What are the intangible aspects that you have wlaked through?

The Music on This Edition of the Podcast:

"Short Attention Span"

"American Tune" by Paul Simon

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174 • A Couple of Regular Guys

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You asked for it. We delivered.

One of the most commonly asked for additions to the podcast line up is: "Can we hear from other Pirate Monks?" Today on the podcast, we sit down with two Samson brothers who have never met Nate.

Paul Maxwell (@paulcmaxwell) is a PhD student at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, and philosophy professor at Moody Bible Institute. He writes more at his blog, and pretends to like coffee. Paul wrote the article "Seven Things to Do After Watching Pornography" for Desiring God and included a shout out to Samson Society.

He was first invited to Samson Society by his friend Ryan Gibson. Ryan started his professional life in ministry as a youth minister. He received an undergrad in theology and pursued an MDiv at Westminster Seminary where he met Paul Maxwell. He didn't complete his MDiv, instead pursuing a new career in web development and has been doing that for the past five years. He has done a lot of traveling since then, starting or joining Samson Society groups in each new location. He's currently living in Fishers, Ind. with his wife and two kids. He is currently meeting with other brothers in the local Fishers Samson Society group which meets at Christ's Community Church on the corner of 131st and Allisonville Rd. Most importantly, though, is that he's a diehard Cubs fan and doesn't miss a game.

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Episode 173 • Soul Architecture featuring Aaron Porter

Our own Renaissance Man, Aaron Porter, takes us on a guided tour of one of his life's great passions—applying the Gospel to the great why questions of our lives. Every week, Aaron coaches several Christ followers on the path to greater understanding of their selves and Abba God using the material in his latest book, Soul Architecture: Building Your Story on a Gospel Foundation. Using the ancient enneagram as a tool and the Scriptures as the roadmap, Aaron helps us understand:

 

we need more than just a personality inventory that examines behavior

which part of the Body of Christ we function in

what "planet" we are on—how we process our surroundings and interact with others

 

Our Guest

Aaron Porter makes coffee mixed with Red Bull look lazy. When he's not being a husband and father, he helps lead Vintage Community, a fellowship of Christ followers in central (San Luis Obispo/Templeton) California. Somehow he finds time to write and perform music locally [download], write books, coach others in Soul Architecture, write engineering reports, and co-host our podcast.

Aaron—despite what you might hear on the podcast—is smart, wise, intuitive, and lives with a driving passion for others to fully understand the power of the gospel in their lives.

Aaron's Books

The Fallen Series, a trilogy of novels

A strange boy in the Arabian desert and the political turmoil of the Parthian empire collide as a group of magi seek to find the balance between a world of power and truth.

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Music Used

Since our edition is published on Good Friday of 2016, Mark offers up two of his favorite Resurrection Sunday songs.

World-class guitarist and songwriter, Chris Rodriguez (Michael W. Smith, Keith Urban, Kenny Loggins, Shania Twain) penned this plaintive song about Mary Magdalene.

 

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Matt Maher performs his contemporary classic "Christ is Risen".

 

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Scripture Used

Romans 6

Zephaniah 3:17

Romans 7:17

Links Related to Soul Architecture

The Enneagram inventory Aaron recommends is the Wagner Enneagram Personality Style Scales. Take the inventory by clicking here. (Reminder: the inventory takes at least 40 minutes to complete and costs $10.)

The authors Aaron appreciates most on the topic are Riso and Hudson of The Enneagram Institute.

Richard Rohr's book, The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective, is available here.

Aaron mentioned the importance of the first 100 pages of Watchmen Nee's book, The Normal Christian Life. You can buy it from here.

To go deeper into Soul Architecture through coaching from Vintage Community, click here. (Reminder: space is very limited)

We'd love to hear from you. Please take a few minutes and answer questions on our listener survey. You'll be entered for a drawing for a free, autographed copy of Nate Larkin's book, Samson and the Pirate Monks.

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